Questions
Frequently Asked Questions
Booking, screening, deposits, discretion, limits, and what to expect before you write. Read this before you open a form.
How do I book a session?
Start on the Book page and choose the form that matches what you are asking for, whether that is an in-person session in Manila, online domination, a tour date, or a longer arrangement. Tell me who you are, what draws you here, your experience, your limits, and your availability. I read every enquiry. I answer the ones written by people who have clearly read this site first.
What does screening involve and why do you require it?
Screening is how I confirm I am speaking to the person I think I am speaking to, and that we are a reasonable fit before anyone travels or pays a deposit. What I ask for depends on the type of session, whether we have met before, and whether the booking is incall or outcall. Your information is handled confidentially, used only for verification, and not kept longer than the process requires. I understand the discretion concerns this raises, because I have the same concerns from the other direction.
Do you require a deposit?
Yes. A session is not confirmed until the deposit is received. Amounts, methods, and category-specific tribute are on the Tributes page, including the deposits section. If you cancel after paying a deposit, notify me by email. The deposit is withheld. If I cancel, I will contact you and we will arrange the appropriate next step for any deposit already received.
I have never done this before. Is that a problem?
No. Many people who write to me are approaching a professional session for the first time, and telling me that upfront is useful rather than a drawback. It changes how much correspondence we need beforehand, how I pace the session, and how much time I allow for conversation before anything physical begins. Beginners who read the site and write honestly are easier to work with than people who pretend they know more than they do.
What should I include in my first message?
Who you are, what draws you to this, what you have and have not done before, what you are hoping for, your hard limits, any health considerations that affect play, and your availability. Include whatever screening information the form asks for. A message that reads "hi, are you available?" tells me nothing useful and will not receive a reply.
How far in advance should I book?
For Manila, allow enough time for me to prepare properly. A few days is a practical minimum. A week or more is better when your dates are fixed. Touring windows are short and fill quickly, so write as early as you can. A BDSM vacation or any multi-day arrangement needs considerably more lead time and should be discussed well before you travel.
What if I need to cancel?
Tell me as early as possible by email. If you cancel after a deposit has been paid, the deposit is withheld. Late cancellations waste preparation time I cannot recover, which is why the policy is stated plainly on the Tributes page and in my terms.
Do you offer outcall sessions?
Yes, to hotels and private residences in Manila, and by arrangement while I am touring. Outcall requires additional screening and clear address details in advance. If your location, timing, or preparation is vague, I will not confirm the booking.
What are your hard limits?
Anything illegal. Age play. Race play. Drugs, or any session where you are under the influence. These are hard limits, not preferences open to discussion. Enquiries that involve them will not receive a reply. My rules on the About page explain how I expect people to approach me before we ever discuss a date.
Is discretion guaranteed?
Yes. Discretion is the most important rule I follow under any circumstance, and it has been central to how I work since I became a professional dominatrix. This is intimate, high-stakes work. A single careless detail can follow someone for years. I treat your privacy the way I expect mine to be treated, because the dynamic only works when both sides understand that what happens between us stays between us. I do not discuss the people I see. I do not share identifying details. I do not photograph anyone without explicit agreement.
What should I wear or bring?
Arrive clean, showered, and on time. Avoid heavy fragrance. Bring nothing unless I have asked you to. Some sessions have wardrobe expectations and I will tell you those in advance. Tribute is presented at the start of an in-person session in an unsealed envelope, without being asked for.
Do you offer online sessions if I cannot travel to Manila?
Yes. I take online work as seriously as anything I do in person, including video sessions, text control, chastity keyholding, and longer arrangements. Read the online domination page for what each format involves, then use the online booking form if that is what you want.
How do online sessions work practically?
We agree the format, timezone, duration, and preparation before we start. You need a private space, a stable connection, and whatever tools the session requires arranged in advance. Time spent fixing your camera, your room, or your connection is deducted from the session, because that preparation is your responsibility.
Can I request a specific kink or scenario?
You can tell me what interests you and I will tell you honestly whether it interests me. What I will not do is work from a list handed to me as though I am providing a service to specification. We discuss, then I design the session. Specialty pages describe what I enjoy most, but a good session is built from the conversation, not ordered from a menu.
What is aftercare and do you provide it?
Aftercare is the period after intense play where the body and mind come down properly rather than being cut off. It matters, particularly after heavy sessions, and it is not optional in my practice. What it looks like depends on you and on what we did. We can discuss expectations beforehand. It is part of what your tribute covers.
Do you see couples?
Sometimes, when the dynamic is clear and both people have been screened properly. Couples sessions need more correspondence upfront, not less. Tell me what each of you wants, what you have done before together and apart, and where your limits are. Vague "surprise us" requests do not get confirmed.
Do you see women, or submissives who are not men?
Yes. I work with men and women, in person and online. The same standards apply. Read the site, write honestly, respect the boundaries, and do not assume that because you are not male the rules are softer. They are not.